1. They are unsure-

Being unsure is actually not a bad thing for the two parties collectively because the worst thing a person can do is bring doubt into an engagement or a marriage. It can however be a bad thing for the woman who feels some type of way about that. The reason being is you as a woman never want to be with a guy who is unsure about you. What that means is if someone who they think is prettier, or has a bigger shape than you they will quickly leave. It is important to protect yourself.

2. They don’t want to marry you-

This is not always the case. Most times when a man meets a woman he put her in a category within the first 5 mins of a conversation with her. That category could be wife material, friend zone, sex partner, or just an associate. More times than not he could have put you in one of those categories and if he feels this way it could be that he put you in a category other than marriage in the beginning. Now I will say this, it is also possible that he legitimately wanted to marry you but something happened along the way that caused him to want to change his mind. Ultimately it is a conversation that you guys must have.

3. They want to marry you but don’t feel ready to give up the sense of freedom-

These are the guys that love the idea of marriage, kids, and a white fence, but in their heart they are still in love with the idea of being able to date freely. This is a decision you would have to quickly make, but you neve want to be with a man who has one foot in and one foot out. If it is like that now it will be like that when and if you guys get married f he doesn’t deal with that part of himself.

4. They just want everything to be perfect for you-

There are many guys who are perfectionists and it can come across as if they just don’t want to be tied down and that is not true. For certain men, if they are not where they feel like they should be in regards to their goals and vision they will continue to build. One thing women love is a man who communicates, so when a man doesn’t communicate where he is in his process, vision and how that includes his lady women can become frustrated. Ladies my recommendation for this is to respectfully have a conversation about it, but don’t come from a place of anxiousness. Come from a gentle place of support and clarity.

5. You are applying pressure as opposed to allowing them to do it on their own-

That is one thing that is frustrating for men. When you have  lady that adds the pressure to hurry and propose. I don’t personally believe in long drawn out relationships, but you never want a man to feel as if he has to propose only because of your desire to do it now. Of course if a man has been with you for years and hasn’t done it yet and doesn’t plan on it and you desire to be married then by all means move on. When we propose we want it to be because we want you, love you and desire to spend our lives with you and mot any other reason.

6. They just don’t want to get married to anyone-

There are plenty of women like this and men like this of all ages who just don’t want to get married nor have kids. That is their preference. If you have been with a man that feels this way and you didn’t know this upfront it is definitely your fault. You want to for sure ask questions about marriage in the beginning so you won’t have expectations that are not met such as eventually getting ing married.

7. They are hurt from their last relationship-

Yes men do get hurt in relationships as well. A lot of times fear of commitment due to hurt won’t stop a man from getting in a relationship, but it will show up in the road to marriage. I have been hurt before in a relationship and I had to go through a healing process and take time to grow from it. Everyone doesn’t do that. Some people get out of one relationship and jump right into the next. It is important for you to take your time in the beginning so that you can know the state of their emotional well-being.


Chris WIlliams II is a finance manager and young entrepreneur who was born in Chicago. He understands first hand what it means to sacrifice for a better way of life. He lived in his car for over 2 months while starting off as a young executive in South FL. He has since then started a multiple businesses while currently being in the process of opening up his first franchise store. Chris has the heart to help other entrepreneurs.

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